Just over five years ago, at the age of 16 and while playing the school game “twenty questions” Marc decided he liked me enough to use his very last question to ask me to date him. Now this year while on our holiday in Rome, Marc once again decided he wanted to ask me a question but this time it was overlooking the most romantic city in the world and he got down on one knee to ask it of me! And just like all those wonderful years ago, I answered YES!
On the 5th of June 2017 (also his mother’s birthday) while I was cranky, smelly, tired from our day full of travelling and while I had a mouth full of water! Marc thought it was the perfect time to ask me to spend the rest of my life with him… and I couldn’t have asked for a better proposal!
Some women want the whole show stopping moment and that’s okay too, but as I stood there by the side of our hotel bed, looking into the eyes of the man I loved, I knew Rome had just become the best city in the whole wide world!
My dearest Fiancé also had the hindsight to ask my parents’ permission. Even though this outdated tradition is much rarer now than it once was, but I have always loved the idea behind it. Not that of possession but of asking my father, the first man I ever loved and who looked after me from my first breath, if he could take over that duty and love me, stand by me and look after me for as long as we are together.
And the ring, my gorgeous gorgeous ring holds so much love and hope. It originally belonged to his mother given to her as an engagement ring by Marc’s father and was passed on to him once they divorced and he was ready to ask me to be his wife! And I love it! Because of where it comes from, it makes the symbol all that much greater. Although he didn’t pick it out himself and it not feeling really mine just yet I wouldn’t change it for anything.
Here’s hoping his parents’ divorce isn’t a bad omen!
I’m pretty sure it didn’t end because of the ring…
But all these traditions got me thinking… Where did all these wedding traditions actually come from?
Well, the engagement ring is a tradition that apparently dates back to the ancient Egyptians, who believed circles were symbols of eternity. (an idea that is still with us today) Wedded couples were said to exchanged rings made from braided reeds. These were worn on the left-hand ring finger, a finger believed to hold a vein that ran directly to the heart (this was later found to be true and named the Vena Amoris.)
Now if we jump forward and find ourselves in the 2nd century B.C. The ancient Romans are believed to have started the tradition of betrothal rings when men started giving his bride money or valuable objects (such as a ring) to symbolism ownership.
Diamonds didn’t appear on engagement rings until much later. One of the first recorded uses of a diamond engagement ring was in 1477. A man by the title of Archduke Maximilian of Austria proposed to a Mary of Burgundy with a ring set with flat, thin pieces of diamond cut into the shape of an “M.”
Diamond rings became much more popular to the ordinary person when the precious rock was discovered in South Africa in 1880. And by the early 1940s, engagement rings became the leading line of jewellery in most stores.
Today an engagement ring is a symbol of love, which is nicer than possession and much nicer again from the earliest mating rituals of cavemen tying cords made of braided grass around his chosen mate’s wrists, ankles, and waist, to bring her spirit under his control!
Like Marc could ever tame my spirit, HA!