Why I’m going to Cardiff Pride this Saturday…
I met my best friend Mollie on one of the first days of comprehensive school at the age of 11. I was standing outside my new Biology class and saw this small, shy girl standing in the corner far away from the door and myself. I caught her eye, smiled, and now 11 years later she’s going to be my maid of honour.
But none of that explains why I’m going to pride right?
One more thing about Mollie… She’s Bisexual (90% women, 10% men)
Now when she finally told me, three short years ago, I didn’t even blink an eyelid. In a way I always kinda knew there was something, it just confirmed what I already thought. But the first worlds out of Mollie’s mouth was “I have something to tell you… Please don’t hate me.” This beautiful, kind, incredible person who had hidden a part of her from everyone was afraid things might change between us because she was attracted to both men and women?! She was scared that I would confuse our sleepover’s as anything other than innocent and in that moment I was angry. Not at her but at why she thought she had to “come out” at all and why she felt she had to hide from the world because of something she had no control over.
Mollie is one of the smarted people I know, she has a degree in both Psychology and Criminology (wrote her dissertation on the LGBT community) but that day she was really stupid. I’m honoured to be one of the first people she told about her sexuality and I stand by her every step of the way. Unfortunately not everyone is as open-minded as myself and three years on she is still afraid of telling her father and his family out of possible backlash.
So Mollie is the reason I’m going to Pride this year and will continue to go until I no longer need too. She is the reason I fight for LGBT rights, because if things were reversed she would be right next to me too.
I’m going to Pride because I am so glad, proud and over-joyed to have her in my life.
Why we still need pride in 2017?
https://www.pride.com/ <– Here is Pride’s official website
- One in six lesbian, gay and bi people have experienced a homophobic or biphobic hate crime or incident over the last three years
- Fewer than one in 10 victims who reported hate crimes and incidents to the police said it led to a conviction
- A quarter (26 per cent) of lesbian, gay and bi people alter their behaviour to hide their sexual orientation to avoid being the victim of a hate crime
- 38 per cent of trans people have experienced physical intimidation and threats and 81 per cent have experienced silent harassment (e.g. being stared at/whispered about)
- One in five (19 per cent) lesbian, gay and bi employees have experienced verbal bullying from colleagues, customers or service users because of their sexual orientation in the last five years
- Nearly half (42 per cent) of trans people are not living permanently in their preferred gender role stated they are prevented from doing so because they fear it might threaten their employment status
- Nearly half (45 per cent) of LGBT pupils – including 64 per cent of trans pupils – are bullied for being LGBT in Britain’s schools. This is down from 55 per cent of lesbian, gay and bi pupils who experienced bullying because of their sexual orientation in 2012 and 65 per cent in 2007
- 72 countries criminalise same-sex relationships (and in 45 the law is applied to women as well as men)
- The death penalty is either ‘allowed’, or evidence of its existence occurs, in 8 countries
- Between 2008 and 2014, there were 1,612 trans people were murdered across 62 countries – equivalent to a killing every two days
If you need help:
Here are a few websites/numbers you should look at –
The Lesbian, Gay and Bi-sexual charity
Information Line: 08000 50 20 20
LGF – The Lesbian and Gay Foundation
Support, advice & InformationHelpline: 0845 3 30 30 30
The Terence Higgins Trust
Freephone: 0800 802 1221
Parent’s Helpline: 08451 205 204